Kevin Pillar Can Redeem Himself by Becoming an LGBT Ally in Baseball
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Kevin Pillar Can Redeem Himself by Becoming an LGBT Ally in Baseball

MLB ambassador for inclusion Billy Bean and You Can Play president Brian Kitts believe Pillar, who was recently suspended for using a slur, can use his platform to help change baseball’s culture.

Kevin Pillar's regrettable, out-of-frustration remark last week instantly changed the glowing discussion about him.

Agitated by a Braves reliever who quick-pitched him, the Blue Jays center fielder mouthed a homophobic slur after striking out that was caught on camera and spread rapidly on social media. There was no confusing what Pillar said: The 26-year-old shouted the f-word at Atlanta's Jason Motte in a brief but heated moment that was met with disdain. It offered a quick reminder of the offensive and hurtful language that still exists in sports culture in 2017, and was damaging to Pillar's otherwise stellar reputation.

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"Any time something like this happens, your initial reaction is disappointment," Brian Kitts, co-founder and president of LGBT supporting organization You Can Play, told VICE Sports. "You like to think that sports in particular and society in general have moved on. It's just not acceptable. At some point you're doing it to denigrate or make somebody else feel bad. We've all played sports and understand what happens, but those slurs are not part of the game and don't need to be."

Pillar, who was handed a two-game suspension by the Blue Jays, took steps to own up to his mistake the next day, apologizing to the LGBT community for the lack of respect he displayed, while acknowledging that the word has no place in today's society. He said he was "embarrassed" and felt "horrible," and spoke about using this lesson as an opportunity to better himself.

"I think that Kevin handled it really well," Kitts said. "We always look for an immediate understanding that you've messed up and then that acknowledgement that you can learn from this. That's the best we can hope for when we work for this type of culture change, that you acknowledge there's an issue and you either want to learn more about it or make it better in some way."


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MLB ambassador for inclusion Billy Bean said he was extremely disappointed and heartbroken when he first heard of the incident, but felt Pillar's apology was "very earnest and sincere." Bean, the most recognized openly-gay figure in the sport, recalls the "f-word" uttered frequently in clubhouse conversation during his playing days, which lasted into the early 1990s after having spent parts of six seasons with the Tigers, Dodgers, and Padres. That lack of tolerance and inclusiveness is partially what drove him to retirement in 1995 at the age of 31, a decision he regrets today. He still loved the game, but as an active player did not feel comfortable disclosing that he was gay (he went public with his sexual orientation in 1999).

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Bean's concern is that derogatory comments like Pillar's—although seemingly not premeditated nor meant to be intentionally slanderous to the LGBT community—is a step backward and potentially discouraging to players who identify as gay or bisexual.

"We were not told that [saying homophobic slurs] was unacceptable. So you perpetuate stereotypes, you perpetuate a collective, embedded thought that, 'Well I guess it's OK if somebody that I look up to uses that terminology,'" Bean told VICE Sports. "That's why it's so important from ownership to team presidents to managers that we change that culture where hopefully the first thought that comes to an athlete in the heat of the battle won't be a word that's disparaging towards the LGBT community."

The problem with change, especially with issues of this nature, is that it comes slow. Painfully slow. Mindsets, formed at an early age, can be difficult to alter.

It has been over 70 years since Jackie Robinson broke the colour barrier and became the first African American to play an MLB game in 1947, yet just a couple of weeks ago racism was brought to the forefront again when Orioles outfielder Adam Jones was the subject of slurs at Boston's Fenway Park.

LGBT activists concede that this type of language is difficult to eradicate from the game.

MLB ambassador for inclusion Billy Bean.

Billy Bean addresses the media on the Mets' Pride Night in summer 2016. Photo by Andy Marlin-USA TODAY Sports

"We look at this type of work as a long game. It took years and years to get language involving race or religion out of locker rooms and sports venues so we see this as the same thing," Kitts said. "We understand that it takes a while; you start using this type of language when you're 10 or 11 years old and you grow up with it. I don't think it's a surprise that it still gets used."

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The battle against the use of homophobic terminology is in its infancy compared to the one against racism. It was only in 2013 that MLB issued a zero-tolerance policy prohibiting players from harassing and discriminating against other players based on their sexual orientation.

"Five years ago, we weren't having these types of discussions at all. I think that with the big leagues we've got and a lot of the groups we work with who are even willing to have these discussions means that you're making progress," Kitts said.

Pillar's necessary suspension demonstrated that there's no admissible excuse for using a gay slur. While there's surely differing opinions on whether an unpaid two-game ban was the correct punishment, the overwhelming reaction showed that people do care and demand accountability.

"Ten years ago, this would not be the case. It would have come and gone and people would have said, 'It's a shame he got caught saying it.' Players are ultimately going to be responsible for their own actions," Bean said. "But the Blue Jays stood up immediately—Pillar is a huge part of their organization but even still, they said loud and clear this is unacceptable behaviour within our organization."

Blue Jays president Mark Shapiro and Major League Baseball commissioner Rob Manfred.

Blue Jays president Mark Shapiro (left) with MLB commissioner Rob Manfred. The Blue Jays consulted with the league and PA about Pillar's punishment. Photo by Dan Hamilton-USA TODAY Sports

As he has continued to grow and adapt in his own role, Bean's message to players about inclusion has become more philosophical in nature. He has tried to emphasize the responsibility and power that comes with the platform they hold as MLB players. Nowadays, especially on the field, it is difficult to do or say anything and not get caught on camera. Even one momentary lapse of judgment has the chance to instantly go viral on social media.

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While it's too early to gauge what type of long-term damage this incident will have on Pillar's reputation, the talk surrounding Toronto's leadoff hitter quickly shifted from his breakout year to his worst moment as a professional. Discussion and perception can change on a dime.

"The players move our message faster than anyone else can in a good or bad way," Bean said. "One of the ways that I want to challenge the players is to ask them, 'Do you want to be remembered for what you do on the field or what you've said in a moment of indiscretion?'

"You work a lifetime to get to the big leagues and it's a lot in the heat of the battle trying to think clearly—more than one person has made a mistake in that situation."

If Pillar makes an effort, the discussion can get back to what he's doing on the field. Photo by Kim Klement-USA TODAY Sports

Ducks captain Ryan Getzlaf got caught up in his own controversy days after Pillar for making a comment the NHL deemed inappropriate but many felt was homophobic. And in April 2016, then-Blackhawks forward Andrew Shaw was involved in a similar situation to that of Pillar, as he was caught on camera using a homophobic slur and was levied a one-game suspension. He made an effort over the last year after getting traded to Montreal to make amends for his actions, and volunteered to be the Canadiens' You Can Play ambassador for the NHL's "Hockey Is For Everyone" campaign this season.

Taking action like Shaw did is how Pillar can help promote real change and show the LGBT community he stands by their side.

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"Andrew did the appropriate apology but I think the other thing you look for is what someone is willing to do and he became an advocate for his team," Kitts said. "The team had already designated somebody else as their ambassador and Andrew stepped up and said he would like to be the one to work on behalf of the LGBT outreach that the team was doing. I think that says a lot about his character and his willingness to acknowledge the mistake and do something to try to make it better, not just for him but for everyone who was offended."

Like Shaw at the time, Pillar said that he did not want this moment to define his career. His manager John Gibbons said the same thing. As far as Kitts and members of You Can Play are concerned, it does not have to.

"What defines you is what you do in the aftermath of a situation where a mistake has been made," said Kitts. "It's about the apology and then genuinely understanding how a kid can be hurt by this language and those attitudes and then following up in a way that provides some education to everybody.

"When somebody makes a mistake and is willing to say they want to be part of the discussion and educational process, that's ideal."

Billy Bean throws out a first pitch while supporting victims of the Orlando terrorist attack. Photo by Kim Klement-USA TODAY Sports

Bean stressed that it's important for those hurt by Pillar's comments to be willing to forgive if he makes a tangible effort to make amends for his actions. That, he said, will help move the conversation forward and promote positive change.

"I would implore anybody in my own community that if we don't have compassion for people making an effort to change, then all the great bravery and pioneering efforts of the LGBT community to change the course of history and stereotypes and fighting for equal civil rights goes by the wayside," Bean said. "I would have a difficult time relating to someone who says you are one-and-done in this life and ask them how they would like to be treated if they ever make a mistake."

As society works to continue advancing tolerance and inclusiveness, the only way to do that is for there to be consequences at every indiscretion, which is why Pillar's suspension was appropriate.

Damage has already been done, but what matters now is his actions moving forward. Pillar has the opportunity and platform to turn this situation into a positive.